My experience with Pakistani men
I remember hiring a
Pakistani man online. He was sincere. However, I did not find his work to be
satisfactory. In addition, he wasted my time. Then I found another man from Pakistan.
I gave him a different job, and he wasted my time.
I said, is that the way
Pakistani citizens behave? Already, I hired another man from Pakistan. He was
not friendly (maybe that is his temperament). It was at this point that I began
to conclude that Pakistani men are unfriendly.
However, I encountered
another man who was from Pakistan. He was very friendly. He knew how to
communicate. I loved his work. What would have happened if I concluded that men
in Pakistan are unfriendly and wicked; therefore, I would not communicate with
the fourth Pakistani man?
That could have been a
tragic mistake! Before meeting the fourth man from Pakistan, I doubted whether
he could be good because I had worked with three Pakistani men. The first man
wasted my time.
The second man was
unfriendly. The third one couldn’t do the work prescribed. I could have
concluded that men from Pakistan are incompetent and unfriendly. I could have
missed the right man, who was also from Pakistan!
The fourth Pakistani man
knew his work. We communicated as if we knew each other! I loved the sincerity
and generosity of that Pakistani man. While the three other men from Pakistan
failed men, I could have ignored the fourth man because he was also from
Pakistan.
I could have concluded
that he was the same as the other Pakistani men. However, I was wrong. My
mindset about Pakistani men changed when I met this man. I even thought the
three Pakistani men mistreated me because I was an African.
How wrong I was! The
issue was that I did not meet the right people. So, what is my point here? We
often complain because of what we have been through. It’s so pathetic that we
are limited in knowledge.
You need advanced
knowledge to make the right decisions. The mere fact that you encountered an
incompetent and wicked African, Asian, American, European, or any nationality
does not necessarily imply that the people on that continent are similarly
incompetent or cruel. You met the wrong people! Stop complaining. You will find
the right person.
Light and darkness
When you observe darkness
and light, what do you see? I may not know what you see. However, when I see
darkness, I see destruction. When I see light, I see and feel hope. That
doesn’t mean that black people are destructive.
One reason most Africans
are black is because of the sun's intensity. Africans are not gorillas. I
wonder if some nationalities identify the devil and evil objects as black.
Well, that’s their understanding.
We (Africans) are human
beings. The same blood that flows through Americans, Europeans, Asians, and
other nationalities also flows through us (Africans). Our philosophy (our
mindset, ideologies, and beliefs) is the difference.
Darkness limits our
vision. However, light enhances our vision. In darkness, we cannot do many
things. For instance, darkness can make us vulnerable to wild animals such as
snakes, scorpions, and mosquitoes.
Because of darkness, we
can ignorantly step on a nail. In the same way, light helps us to see hidden
things. With light, we can recognize and interact with our environment. So,
what is my point here?
Light and darkness are
not the same. Darkness is a symbol of complaint, while light symbolizes
compliance. Anyone who complains unprofessionally and bitterly lives in
darkness. To get rid of darkness, we turn on the light.
You cannot get rid of
darkness with another darkness. In other words, you cannot deal with complaints
by complaining. You cannot deal with an angry vessel by being angry. That angry
man has experienced hostility several times.
The angry man needs love,
care, prayer, provision, counseling, and encouragement. You have to use
different strategies to deal with the angry man. The angry man needs light, not
darkness. The angry man has lived in darkness all the days of his life.
He needs greater light to
terminate his darkness. Don’t fight darkness with darkness. Defeat darkness
with light. Turn on the light when darkness reveals itself! Stop complaining
and start complying!
Just as light eliminates
darkness, compliance eliminates complaints. God Almighty commanded light when
darkness dominated the earth (see Genesis chapter one in the Holy Bible). In
the same way, to deal with your problems, you must turn on the light.
Complaining will not
solve the issue. We can solve the problem by complying. I mean turning on the
light when darkness appears. Are you using darkness to deal with light? Are you
using darkness to deal with darkness?
Use the unquenchable light
to eliminate darkness. Use the Word of God (the Holy Bible) to deal with
wickedness. It doesn't matter how thick the darkness is, use the Word of God to eliminate it. Use the unstoppable light to break the unbreakable barriers. Stop
complaining and start complying!
Sometimes, I marvel when
I see people destructively criticizing others. You will see and hear people
criticizing in the media, the internet, workplaces, homes, schools, and
organizations. Instead of criticizing parents, politicians, leaders, and people
in your chambers, learn from their mistakes.
We have the right to
expose the wickedness of others. However, don’t criticize destructively. Don’t
criticize out of jealousy, hatred, and hostility. Criticize constructively. I
mean, give tangible and logical reasons for your criticism.
Criticize with working
solutions. What
have you accomplished? Do not open your mouth, sorry to
say, “your big mouth” to issue insults. Your criticism must be professional
(logical, full of solutions, and ethical).
In my previous articles, I
explained how to complain professionally. Kindly read my
previous articles related to this article for more profound revelations. It’s
time to stop complaining and start complying.
The seed of past bitter experiences
At the beginning of the
article, I stated that we often complain because of past bitter experiences. Back
in 2017/2018, I encountered a problem. Thieves broke into my apartment. They
stole my laptop, external hard drive, and other important assets.
This happened when I was not
home. My eBooks and several projects were stored on my laptop and external hard
drive. I cried and prayed all kinds of prayers because I wanted the thieves to
return my assets.
The most important things
I needed were the data and information on my laptop and external hard drive. I
lost hundreds of uncompleted books and project outlines. However, I believed in
God for intervention.
The thieves did not
return the stolen goods. However, the Holy Spirit helped me start new projects.
I received fresh ideas for writing new books. Although I lost significant books
and projects, I did not allow bitterness to dominate me.
I could have complained
and remained in bitterness. That could have buried my future! I could have lost
the fresh ideas from the Holy Spirit if I kept living in anger and bitterness. Don’t
remain in the prison of bitterness.
Bitterness is an
invisible weapon the enemy uses to cage our blessings. Failure to eliminate the
past bitter experience can block your blessings. Remember my case with
the Pakistani men?
I could have complained
that Pakistani men are unfriendly, incompetent, and wicked. I could have missed
the right Pakistani man if I had complained about the other three Pakistani men.
However, I did not complain. I complied.
I did not allow my past
bitter experiences to stop me from connecting with the fourth Pakistani man. Today,
that Pakistani man is my friend. We work remotely. Although I have not met him
physically, I believe he is a good man.
I have also not
physically met the other Pakistani men who disappointed me. However, their
actions troubled my heart and created a bad image of Pakistan. One thing about
past experiences is that they can build or destroy you.
Some women met several
men who forsook them. Because of the heartbreak, every man that comes into
their lives is a suspect. They see every man as a heartbreaker because of their
past bitter experiences.
Some men, too, see women
as cheaters because of their past bitter experiences. Some people have
experienced emotional, financial, social, spiritual, psychological, sexual, and
physical abuse, so they cannot relate well.
Because of their past
bitter experiences, they have schizophrenia (abnormal) problems. Their past
bitter experiences have made them anti-social, bitter, unforgiving, angry,
sadistic, and hostile.
They complain wherever
they go. Their past bitter experience has made them toxic. Because of their
past bitter experience, they are master complainers. Maybe people have abused
you. Do not allow the past bitter experiences to destroy you.
When you allow bitter
experiences to dominate you, you will miss opportunities. Sometimes, God allows
us to pass through bitter experiences to train us. Stop complaining that people
don’t want to associate with you.
You have allowed your
past bitter experiences to dominate you. Your bitter experience has changed
your character and personality. Your bitter experience has blinded your eyes of
understanding.
Recover from the bitter
experience because others have recovered. One way to recover from bitter
experiences is to surrender your life to Christ Jesus. When you surrender your
life to Christ Jesus, the Holy Spirit becomes one with you.
From there, renew your
mind with the Holy Bible and build a strong relationship and fellowship with
the Holy Spirit. Associate with the Church and read relevant books that will
shape your mindset.
You will stop complaining
when you follow these master keys. I encourage you to download and read
my series of books for more profound revelations. The
books can transform your mindset and make you a better person. The books are
free on my blog and YouTube
channel.
The prison of the comfort
zone
Every natural person
wants freedom. We want to live in comfort, joy, and peace. We don’t want others
to control our lives. That’s the mindset of a natural person. However, living only
with that mindset can hinder your progress.
There are times when you
must leave your comfort zone. Leaving your comfort zone and locating a new
place helps you to see the big picture. Like a man with a telescope standing on
a mountain.
He can see what others
can’t see. Maybe you are afraid that people will reject you when you enter a
new environment. Fear of failure might also be another factor. You prefer to
stay in your comfort zone because you don’t want to "lose."
Well, I have “bad news”
for you. I mean for those who don’t want to leave their comfort zone! Do you
know that your comfort zone can imprison your potential? Yes, your comfort zone
limits your potential.
Maybe I should state that
again. Your comfort can limit your gifts, talents, purpose, and creativity!
Living in your comfort zone destroys your manliness. You remain a baby when you
stay in your comfort zone!
Your mental and emotional
capacity will not expand when you stay in your comfort zone. You will become a
master complainer when you stay in your comfort zone! You will become a
candidate of the rat
racers when you remain in your comfort zone.
So, what is a comfort
zone? I define a comfort zone as any place where you easily get food, water,
money, shelter, and happiness. It could be your family's house. You have
friends, family, and loved ones who are always ready to assist you in that arena.
That’s a comfort zone. In
a comfort zone, you have complete “protection” from family and friends. The
comfort zone is a place of continuous enjoyment, joy, and peace. In your
comfort zone, you can watch long-hour movies, play electronic games, eat any
food you want, and enjoy free bills.
Your comfort zone is an
arena where you rarely take responsibility. It is a place where people cater
for your finances and wellbeing. Your comfort zone is a place of accessibility.
You don't have to struggle to get what you want.
That is your comfort
zone. Staying in such a place for a long time will imprison your inner power
and glory. In your comfort zone, when things begin to fall, you start
complaining. However, nature begins to train you if you locate a new place to
start life afresh.
You might not get access
to family and friends in your new location. You might not get access to
adequate food and water. This is where you can break your childlessness
syndrome and build the seed of manliness.
When you change
environments, you begin to see things from different perspectives. I left my
parents' home a long time ago. I rented my little apartment. I pay weekly
bills. I do not depend on family and friends for assistance.
Because of that, I work
hard and smart. Leaving my parents’ home made me think like a man. It has
expanded my potential! Even if my parents die, I can live. Some people cannot
live without their families and friends.
They are bonded to their
family and friends to the extent that they cannot do anything without them.
What a tragedy! What if those people died? What will you do? Kill comfort zone
syndrome and become a complete vessel.
Some people even commit
suicide because their comfort zone has made them
emotionally and psychologically weak. They want to hear from their family and
friends every day. What a pity! Babies cannot live without their families and
friends!
By the way, are you a
baby? Become a man. Stop complaining and start complying! I live as if I don’t
have family members and friends. It has helped me in several ways. Leaving my
comfort zone has enhanced my decision-making skills.
Vacating my comfort zone
has helped me manage my finances well. I know how to live without the support
of family and friends. Leaving my comfort zone has built my social skills. I
don’t depend on the government, family, or friends for survival.
I do not depend on others
for food, water, and other basic needs. Leaving my comfort zone has built my
emotional, psychological, spiritual, financial, and social strength. Although I
visit family and friends occasionally, I live on my own.
I am building capacity
because I have left my comfort zone. I don’t join people complaining about the
economy. By God’s grace, I know what to do to become successful. I know how to
manage my time, mind, and resources.
By God’s grace, I know
how to manage myself because I left my comfort zone. You will hardly find me
complaining. Do you know why? Because I left my comfort zone! I do not fear
traveling to different towns, schools, and villages to preach the gospel
because I left my comfort zone.
I know how to handle
“strangers” because I left my comfort zone. Get me right. I am not stating that
you should forsake family and friends. That’s a terrible idea. I am stating
that, you should learn to be independent of family and friends.
Locate a new place and
start your life. Doing that will enhance your maturity. You will stop
complaining about basic needs and wants when you live independently for a long
time. You will learn to be responsible when you are on your own.
You will stop complaining
and start complying when you leave your comfort zone. The comfort zone is an
invisible enemy. It’s a comfortable prison. Vacate your comfort zone at the
appointed time.
The experiences you will
pass through in the new environment will eliminate you from the complainers. You
will become a complier. I encourage you to download and read my books, How to Pursue a
Purposeful Life Without Money, Uncommon Wisdom Keys, How to Pursue a Purposeful
Life,
and other wisdom-related books for more profound revelations. The books
are free on my blog and YouTube channel. Do you want to join the
Association of Complainers or Compliers? The decision is yours!
The seed of impatience
Life is a journey. It
takes time to build. Like a newborn baby. The child learns to walk, eat, bathe,
and talk. A time will come when the child will go to school. From there, the
child grows into adolescence.
Then, “the child” begins
to make friends. A time will come when he will get a job, marry, and build his
family. That is how life works. When you plant a seed in fertile soil, it
doesn’t germinate at the same time.
Some seeds take days,
weeks, months, and years to germinate. That is how life works. Stop complaining
that things are not working. It is a matter of time. God makes things beautiful
in his time (see Ecclesiastes 3:1-11).
You need patience. What
would have happened to David if he had given up? David was the next king of
Israel. However, the current king (Saul) opposed him vehemently. King Saul
tried several times to kill David but to no avail.
David could have
concluded that he would no longer bother with the kingship because of King
Saul’s hostility. However, David did not give up. God gave David victory when
he endured the hostility of King Saul.
Sometimes, the one
supposed to help you can become your bitter enemy. The devil does that to
discourage you from accessing your glory. Enemies will come from every angle.
However, do not give up.
You may even try to
please everyone. That’s another enemy trap (see Proverbs 29:25). You cannot
please everyone! Escape the prison of manipulation! The Holy Spirit is the most
important person to please.
The devil and his minions
will hit you the hardest when you are close to your blessings. Do not give up!
Stop complaining and start complying. Comply by building strength in the
opposition season.
Joseph faced a similar
issue. His brothers hated him because of his assignment. Joseph endured pain, betrayal,
and slavery, and God gave him the Victor's crown. Christ Jesus could have
forsaken the cross.
However, he endured the
pain. Today, Christ Jesus reigns. His Kingdom is forever! Do not give up because
you are failing. Failure is part of the test. Stop complaining because
everything you touch fails.
Stop complaining because
family, friends, and those supposed to help you have ignored you. Opposition,
insults, rejection, failure, pain, depression, and hostility are part of the
training! Stop complaining and start complying!
I encourage you to
download and read this book, Losing,
Suffering, Sacrificing, and Dying, for more profound
revelations. The eagle passes through much pain before building new feathers.
When the eagle is able to endure the pain, it soars higher.
The butterfly goes
through pain before flying in its infancy. That is how it learns to build capacity.
Build inner capacity (strength) in the season of hostility, criticism, pain,
and rejection. The Holy Spirit knows where he is taking you. Conquer fear,
rejection, hatred, failure, and hostility to climb the mountain. Stop complaining and start complying!
The seed of offense
One thing you must know
about human nature is that the natural man is hostile. Try your best to be at
peace with all men. However, you will find some people disagreeing with and fighting
you! As stated, we cannot please everyone.
There will be some people
who will always find faults in you. It’s because of hatred, ignorance, manipulation,
and mental challenges. Most often, demons control such people. The best thing
to do is pray and endure.
Some people are damaged
mentally, emotionally, socially, financially, and spiritually, so they don’t
know how to deal with and live with others. Because of these challenges, they
offend anyone that comes their way.
Keep this in your memory.
People will offend you irrespective of your innocence. The devil knows that
offense can make you bitter, so it will use carnal and demon-possessed people
to trap you.
Sometimes, you have to
act like a fool because you want peace. If you are not wise enough and you
remain in the trap of offense, the devil will control you. As we all know, the
devil has three agendas.
The devil steals, kills,
and destroys (meditate on John 10:10 and download
my series of books on the enemy for more profound
revelations). The books are free on my blog and YouTube channel.
Remaining in the cage of
offense limits your progress. Living in offense empowers evil spirits to hijack
your blessings (meditate on Matthew 18:23-34). Offense makes you bitter and
blind. An offended person authorizes wicked spirits and people to control his life.
Stop complaining that
things are not moving well. It is because you are offended. The devil and his
cohorts are using the offense in your heart to hijack your blessings. Forgive
offenders from your heart. The Holy Spirit knows how to deal with offenders (meditate
on Romans 12:19, Hebrews 10:30, Nahum 1:2-3, Psalm 94:1-3). Are you complaining
or complying?
The seed of imbalance
Aside from you have been
disciplined, hardworking, and sacrificial, do not neglect your body. Machines
even depreciate when we use them for a long time. Failure to maintain the
machine can cause it to break down.
In the same way, our
bodies are like machines. We have to take good care of our bodies. Be
hardworking, disciplined, and diligent. However, don’t overstress yourself. You
can attract strange diseases and even die prematurely if you overstress your
body.
I have heard several
stories of people dying prematurely and contracting mental and physical
diseases because of improper care of the body. I rest when tired. Once in a
while, I watch movies, play games, and enjoy myself.
However, I don’t ignore
work. Eat a balanced diet. I mean maintain good hygiene. Occasionally, check
your health. Your body needs maintenance. Depression and strange mental
illnesses can step in if you don’t take good care of your body.
Maybe you have been
complaining about specific illnesses. Can I present to you that you are
stressing your body? I love work. However, I rest when tired! Stop complaining
and start complying.
I think these wisdom keys
are enough. I wish I could share more wisdom keys with you. However, I feel in
my heart that it is enough. Kindly read the
previous articles related to this article for more profound
revelations.
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