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Wisdom Keys for Friendship [Creating a lasting relationship]

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Introduction

I am an introvert by nature. I can live alone for a long time without people hanging around people. However, I have realized that we need people around us. We need people around in case of an emergency.

We need people around us to help us because we have limitations. Friends and family come in to fill the gap of loneliness, depression, and needs. Some friends can upgrade or downgrade your life if you don’t apply wisdom.

Because of this reason, I want to share with you about human relationships. This article will broaden your understanding of friendship (relationship), the power of friendship, the dangers of associating with people, and ways to connect with people.

 

Who is a friend?

A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Proverbs 17:17 KJV

Friends come into our lives to help us fulfil our purpose. We can accept or reject friendship. Friends will love us in our darkest moments. A true friend will not ignore you when things are not progressing well.

You discover a true friend in the season of pain, fear, trouble, and moment of storms. People who only come into your life in a time of joy are not true friends. They are the wolves in sheep's clothing.

Such “friends” will ignore you in the season of affliction, hardship, and pain. However, true friends stay with you in times of joy and pain. True friends are closer to you than family members. They desire your upliftment. Your joy is their joy. Your pain is their pain.

 

The Impact of Friends on your life

Some people make friends with animals, while some make friends with technology and their electronic devices. Someone can have numerous friends on social media and have little or no friends in real life.

Making friends is essential. However, you must apply wisdom when connecting with people. A “friend” of mine landed me in an occult house because I did not apply wisdom in that relationship. If not for the mercies of God, I would have been dead or insane.

 

Applying wisdom in your relationship

Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:

Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.

Proverbs 22:24-25 KJV

Most extroverts love to make friends because that is their nature. However, it is advisable not to make friends with angry people. Angry people are given to passion. They become angry anytime and anywhere because they have little or no control over their emotions.

Angry people are quick to condemn, insult, and fight. Angry people are slaves to their emotions. Instead of controlling their emotions, they allow their emotions to control them. As stated in the Holy Scriptures, we must not make friends with angry people (extremely emotional people).

You will learn the ways of angry people when you become friends. You will become like them because of the soul ties. Soul ties are when your emotions, desires, and willpower become one with another (meditate on 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). 

 

The Holy Bible warns us of relationships

Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.

1 Corinthians 15:33 KJV

It is not evil to associate with unbelievers. However, apply wisdom in that friendship because it can corrupt your good manners. A lady friend of mine in the University became pregnant in level 400 because of the friend she chose.

Associating with ungodly people will corrupt your conscience (meditate on 1 Corinthians 15:33). You can make friends with unbelievers but do not equally yoke with them because the Holy Bible commands us (see 2 Corinthians 6:14-18).

Making friends with unbelievers to preach the gospel is good. Below are some ways to make friends. As stated, friends are good. You can learn from people. Friends can help you in the season of emergency.

 

Ways to make friends

best ways and biblical ways to make friends

1. Riches can bring people into your life

Wealth maketh many friends; but the poor is separated from his neighbour.

Proverbs 19:4 KJV

Have you observed rich people? You will see that we have many friends. People often love to make friends with rich people because of the benefits. However, poor people have no friends or little friends.

If you desire friends, become a person of value. People will not hesitate to come close to you when you are full of resources. If you observe trees, you will see that people come close to trees with fruits. However, trees with little or no fruits have few people around them.

 

2. Generosity can bring friends into your life

Many will intreat the favour of the prince: and every man is a friend to him that giveth gifts.

Proverbs 19:6 KJV

Generous (kind) people attract friends. There is no way a normal person will not feel attracted to a giver. If you desire friends, give from your heart. Share your talent and assets with others.

Through your generosity, people will come close to you. However, apply wisdom because people that come close to you through your giving and status (wealth) may not be true friends.

Some people will forget your kindness, so don’t expect everyone to associate with you because you are kind, loving, joyful, and friendly. Some people will take advantage of your kindness.

Some will manipulate you because of your generosity and sincerity. Some will become your enemies, while some will become jealous. Let wisdom guide you in your generosity. For more profound revelations, freely download and read my book, the forty types of People and Howto Live with Them, on my blog.

 

3. Your morality and communication skills can attract friends

He that loveth pureness of heart, for the grace of his lips the king shall be his friend.

Proverbs 22:11 KJV

Are you in search of friends? Live in purity and righteousness, and sanctify yourself with God’s Word (the Holy Bible). Nature will draw people close to you when you are pure in your heart and body.

Your presence will command respect and relationship. Your excellent communication skills will attract people to you. People will love to be around you if you know how to talk. It is time to polish your language.

People will draw closer to you when you speak politely, respectively, and live in the righteousness of Christ Jesus. On the other hand, people will disassociate with you if you have poor communication skills.

That is, you talk disrespectfully. Nobody or a few people will associate with you when you talk harshly. If you desire friendship, learn to speak respectively and live according to the standard of the Word (the Holy Bible).

 

4. Being open can generate more friends

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Proverbs 18:24 KJV

One reason extroverts have many friends is that they are open to people that come their way. Sanguines have many friends because they love to socialize. If you desire friendship, take off the moodiness (melancholy) mask.

Excluding yourself from the crowd and expecting people to come close to you isn’t possible. Be sociable. Your body languages speak a lot about your personality. People will withdraw from you when they see your antisocial gestures, attitude, and character. However, people advance toward you when they see your genuine smile and joy.

Although I am an introvert, I make friends. When I’m in public and at conferences, I try to make friends with people. Smiling and saying hi to strangers shouldn’t be a burden if you are born again.

The antisocial spirit in you must die. The Holy Spirit will build your character and temperament if you fellowship with him. However, choose friends that will add value to your life.

Choose friends that can upgrade you. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn't make friends with people experiencing poverty. You become friends with poor people because you want to uplift them. Christ Jesus mingled with the poor, rich, literate and illiterate. However, he influenced their lives. Make time with children. It will build your character, communication skills, and social skills.

 




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