Wisdom Keys for Friendship [Creating a lasting relationship]
Introduction
I am an introvert by
nature. I can live alone for a long time without people hanging around people.
However, I have realized that we need people around us. We need people around in
case of an emergency.
We need people around us
to help us because we have limitations. Friends and family come in to fill the
gap of loneliness, depression, and needs. Some friends can upgrade or downgrade
your life if you don’t apply wisdom.
Because of this reason, I
want to share with you about human relationships. This article will broaden
your understanding of friendship (relationship), the power of friendship, the dangers
of associating with people, and ways to connect with people.
Who is a friend?
A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Proverbs 17:17 KJV
Friends come into our lives
to help us fulfil our purpose. We can accept or reject friendship. Friends will
love us in our darkest moments. A true friend will not ignore you when things
are not progressing well.
You discover a true
friend in the season of pain, fear, trouble, and moment of storms. People who
only come into your life in a time of joy are not true friends. They are the wolves
in sheep's clothing.
Such “friends” will
ignore you in the season of affliction, hardship, and pain. However, true
friends stay with you in times of joy and pain. True friends are closer to you
than family members. They desire your upliftment. Your joy is their joy. Your
pain is their pain.
The Impact of Friends on your life
Some people make friends
with animals, while some make friends with technology and their electronic
devices. Someone can have numerous friends on social media and have little or
no friends in real life.
Making friends is essential.
However, you must apply wisdom when connecting with people. A “friend” of mine
landed me in an occult house because I did not apply wisdom in that
relationship. If not for the mercies of God, I would have been dead or insane.
Applying wisdom in your relationship
Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt
not go:
Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.
Proverbs 22:24-25 KJV
Most extroverts love to
make friends because that is their nature. However, it is advisable not to make
friends with angry people. Angry people are given to passion. They become angry
anytime and anywhere because they have little or no control over their
emotions.
Angry
people are quick to condemn, insult, and fight. Angry people
are slaves to their emotions. Instead of controlling their emotions, they allow
their emotions to control them. As stated in the Holy Scriptures, we must not
make friends with angry people (extremely emotional people).
You will learn the ways of
angry people when you become friends. You will become like them because of the
soul ties. Soul ties are when your emotions, desires, and willpower become one
with another (meditate on 2 Corinthians 6:14-18).
The Holy Bible warns us of relationships
Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.
1 Corinthians 15:33 KJV
It is not evil to
associate with unbelievers. However, apply wisdom in that friendship because it
can corrupt your good manners. A lady friend of mine in the University became
pregnant in level 400 because of the friend she chose.
Associating with ungodly
people will corrupt your conscience (meditate on 1 Corinthians 15:33). You can
make friends with unbelievers but do not equally yoke with them because the
Holy Bible commands us (see 2 Corinthians 6:14-18).
Making friends with
unbelievers to preach the gospel is good. Below are some ways to make friends.
As stated, friends are good. You can learn from people. Friends can help you in
the season of emergency.
Ways to make friends
1. Riches can bring people into your life
Wealth maketh many friends; but the poor is separated from his
neighbour.
Proverbs 19:4 KJV
Have you observed rich
people? You will see that we have many friends. People often love to make
friends with rich people because of the benefits. However, poor people have no
friends or little friends.
If you desire friends,
become a person of value. People will not hesitate to come close to you when
you are full of resources. If you observe trees, you will see that people come
close to trees with fruits. However, trees with little or no fruits have few
people around them.
2. Generosity can bring friends into your life
Many will intreat the favour of the prince: and every man is a
friend to him that giveth gifts.
Proverbs 19:6 KJV
Generous (kind) people
attract friends. There is no way a normal person will not feel attracted to a
giver. If you desire friends, give from your heart. Share your talent and
assets with others.
Through your generosity,
people will come close to you. However, apply wisdom because people that come
close to you through your giving and status (wealth) may not be true friends.
Some people will forget
your kindness, so don’t expect everyone to associate with you because you are
kind, loving, joyful, and friendly. Some people will take advantage of your
kindness.
Some will manipulate you
because of your generosity and sincerity. Some will become your enemies, while
some will become jealous. Let wisdom guide you in your generosity. For more
profound revelations, freely download and read my book, the forty types of People and Howto Live with Them, on my blog.
3. Your morality and communication skills can attract friends
He that loveth pureness of heart, for the grace of his lips the
king shall be his friend.
Proverbs 22:11 KJV
Are you in search of
friends? Live in purity and righteousness, and sanctify yourself with God’s
Word (the Holy Bible). Nature will draw people close to you when you are pure
in your heart and body.
Your presence will
command respect and relationship. Your excellent communication skills will
attract people to you. People will love to be around you if you know how to
talk. It is time to polish your language.
People will draw closer
to you when you speak politely, respectively, and live in the righteousness of
Christ Jesus. On the other hand, people will disassociate with you if you have poor
communication skills.
That is, you talk
disrespectfully. Nobody or a few people will associate with you when you talk
harshly. If you desire friendship, learn to speak respectively and live
according to the standard of the Word (the
Holy Bible).
4. Being open can generate more friends
A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is
a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
Proverbs 18:24 KJV
One reason extroverts
have many friends is that they are open to people that come their way. Sanguines
have many friends because they love to socialize. If you desire friendship,
take off the moodiness (melancholy) mask.
Excluding yourself from
the crowd and expecting people to come close to you isn’t possible. Be
sociable. Your body languages speak a lot about your personality. People will
withdraw from you when they see your antisocial gestures, attitude, and
character. However, people advance toward you when they see your genuine smile
and joy.
Although I am an
introvert, I make friends. When I’m in public and at conferences, I try to make
friends with people. Smiling and saying hi to strangers shouldn’t be a burden if
you are born again.
The antisocial spirit in
you must die. The Holy Spirit will build your character and temperament if you fellowship with him.
However, choose friends that will add value to your life.
Choose friends that can
upgrade you. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn't make friends with people
experiencing poverty. You become friends with poor people because you want to
uplift them. Christ Jesus mingled with the poor, rich, literate and illiterate.
However, he influenced their lives. Make time with children. It will build your
character, communication skills, and social skills.
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